Hi Girls!
Let's jump right into the topic for today which is - work with what you already have! Start with what you have and do your best to beautify the things you've been given. If you're human, then I know you've already experienced this on some level, that life isn't always fair. Right? Life doesn't pass out it's most coveted gifts equally, but seems to favor some over others.
So consequently some girls were born with beautiful dewy skin and the best hair, while others have been given a head full of frizz and sallow skin that's prone to acne. Life certainly isn't fair, that's for sure. So what can we do? Well, we can learn to take care of what we DO have, and make it as beautiful as we can!
So Let's Work With What We've Got!
Let's start with the girl who feels insecure around her girlfriends who have great skin. Maybe she suffers from acne and has tried every medication on the market without any results. Should she give up? No! Never lose hope, there's always something we can do! Have you tried nutrition or supplements? What about giving up wheat and dairy? That strategy has helped many, not only clear their body of acne, but has also eliminated dark circles and stopped hair loss.
Wheat especially, is very inflammatory and we know that inflammation causes a lot of problems in your body, including acne. However, if you tried changing the way you eat and your skin still isn't better, did you give your new eating program enough time?
Maybe it was working and if you just stuck to it a little longer you would have seen dramatic results.
These skin problems aren't solved over night, so you must be determined to stay the course until you find the solution. That 'stick to it ness' is what separates the winners from the losers and is necessary to get you where you want to go.
If something didn't work for you and you're sure you gave it enough time, then just keep doing your research. Search for new information. Continue learning, and then when you've gathered enough new knowledge, or maybe you feel like you understand the problem a little better then you did before, then try something else with that new knowledge. Gather up all the information, pray about what you've learned and make your plan. Test out your ideas. Especially those that come to you while in prayer. Eventually something you do, will finally work. The key is not to quit.
There is an answer to every problem, you just have to find it! But you must have faith and persist, don't ever give up. Pray to God, asking Him to guide you to the solution to your problem. Ask Him to strengthen you, so that you'll be able to discipline yourself, in whatever way you must, to be able to reach your goal. If you want good skin, you can have it! You may have to work a little harder than others to get it, so are you willing to do what it takes?
Everyone Can Improve Their Skin
Everyone's skin can be improved, doesn't matter if we're young or old, there's always something we can do to improve ourselves. The cells in our bodies are constantly dying off and being replaced with new ones. This cycle will go on till the day we die, so don't give up! Do something today to feed your skin with the nutrients it needs to be healthy and be sure to flush out any toxins by drinking a good amount of water every day.
Knowing what you should do, and actually doing it, are two different things. You can sit there and envy your friend's good skin or you can do something about your own. I can almost guarantee you that the girl born with perfect skin who never seems to have any problems with it, even though she eats junk food, no fruits and vegetables, smokes and drinks, eventually those things will show up on her face. Whether it be premature aging, sallow skin, dark circles or even brown spots. We can only sin against our bodies for so long before it shows up. So don't envy her. Just keep on taking good care of your skin, keep it clean and do what you know is right. Your hard work will pay off eventually, so don't give up!
Eat lots of fruits and steamed vegetables, especially those with an exceptional amount of Vitamin C, which is so necessary for good skin. And take Vitamin C supplements as well as Co Q 10, if you can afford it. (It's a little pricey) Drink water all day long with an orange or cucumber chunk in it for flavor or a bit of lemon squeezed in to make your own version of vitamin water.
Just know that what ever plan you choose, it'll take months to see results because you're working from the inside out, so don't be too impatient. I think people give up too soon, when they don't see results as quickly as they hoped for. That's where faith and your will comes in. Your will is a powerful force! Make up your mind that you're going to see your plan all the way through, to completion. Be determined! Don't let any person or even the thoughts in your own head talk you out of what you're trying to achieve, telling you it will never work. It will work if you don't give up! Stay focused and stick to your plan. Focus on the end results.
Let's Talk Hair!
Now concerning your hair. If you think your hair is too frizzy, then start researching products that can help you. There are products out there that can really help frizzy hair be less frizzy and more manageable. They don't have to be expensive to work. Naturally frizzy hair needs moisture. It's dry and fragile and so it craves water. Be sure to water it from within as well as without.
Be careful not to damage your hair using excessive heat to dry it, just because you're in a hurry. You can undo all the good you did previously, by frying your hair with a hot blow dryer or curling iron. Think of a fine silk blouse that you babied and handled so carefully, by only using a warm iron for years but one day in a hurry you used a hot iron and the blouse was ruined. Same thing can happen to your hair if you're not careful.
For the same reason never brush your hair when it's wet and at it's most fragile state, but take your time and using a wide tooth comb and your fingers, remove any tangles. Be clear about exactly why you're doing, what you're doing, so you don't undo all your hard work.
Give your hair a rest every so often and just feed it, (within and without) focusing not only on repair but also encouraging new growth. Fish oil is very good for the hair and will make it shine. So will hot olive oil treatments once a week. And be sure to condition your hair often. A trick is, when you're rinsing the conditioner out, try to leave some of the product still on your hair. It will smooth out and weigh down some of the frizz. Every so often "shampoo" your hair only with conditioner, skipping your regular shampoo which can be drying. You'll notice a difference immediately.
Also think about changing the texture and thickness of your hair from the inside (so it's not so fine and wispy) by building your meals around the protein found in good meat, and staying away from too many white carbs. Remember to keep your body thoroughly hydrated with water which will also moisten your hair from the inside out. Frizzy hair is all about keeping it moisturized.
Learn To Create Feminine 'Up Dos'
As far as styling goes, try to grow your hair out long enough to create feminine 'up dos'. Look at the hairstyles of ballerinas to get ideas. I understand that you can't just wear a neat, low pony tail because it will just look like a wad of frizz with a band tied around it. But what you can do, is even though your hair is frizzy, it can still be shaped and molded into a pretty feminine 'up do' that curls the frizzy ends under.
Use products such as gels and pomades and mousse to smooth it {these products don't have to be expensive. Go to the section at Walmart where they cater to hair products for people of color. Some, not all, of their products are cheaper and better....experiment} Practice, practice, practice until you've figured out how to twirl your pretty hair, into an attractive up do. Ask God to teach you how to do it or that He would send someone to help you. Keep asking Him every day, until your answer comes. Don't let 'life happen' and distract you from your goals. Remembering always that there's nothing too hard for the Lord. Learn to be persistent in your prayers, and never lose hope. I think we all give up too easily. God will respond to our faith, if we pray " nothing doubting".
You might even want to save your money and visit a School of Cosmetology in your area, which is cheaper than a regular beauty parlor. Ask them to teach you how to style your hair, until you feel satisfied and it looks pleasing to you. It's always good to get a fresh pair of eyes to help us solve our problems! Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need to. And be willing to pay for the expertise of others, who can teach you skills that will help you throughout your lifetime.
Another idea is to try braiding. Braiding contains the frizz and controls it. If you think you could never learn how to braid your own hair, don't give up and don't say you can't. Anybody can learn anything with enough practice. If you want to learn to create pretty braided styles , so that your hair will have a neat feminine appearance, then make that your goal, and don't give up until you've learned this new skill.
Once you've become accomplished at creating up dos, the next step is to learn how to accessorize with beaded and jeweled combs, or even flowers, like in this pretty picture below.
So girls, if you feel that you come up short in the skin or hair department, don't stress about it. Just look for solutions. Everyday do the best you can with what you've been given. Strive to be the best you that you can be. You, be the creator of your own beauty. Fix yourself according to your idea of beauty and not according to what all the fashion gurus say is IN right now. In case you hadn't noticed, poker straight, scraggly ends, flat ironed hair, doesn't look good on everybody. Yet so many will follow the crowd, just to be in style.
Ladies, if you like curls, don't do without just because others have convinced you that curls are "so out of style". If you love the look of curly hair, and curly hair makes you feel more feminine, then take the time to curl your hair! Do it for your family. Give them something pretty to look at, a living work of art, created by YOU, the artist! Be creative, just like your Heavenly Father!
We're the happiest when we're expressing our creativity just like God did when He created the world and formed Adam out of the dust and breathed the breath of Life into him. He was satisfied with His creation and said it was very good.
You also, be satisfied when you have created the beauty that pleases your own eyes, your own standard of beauty. Don't go looking for the world's approval because it's not going to happen. They don't know or understand their Creator or His creation, so don't look to the world for approval, but find satisfaction in your own family and in God.
I hope you've picked up a practical tip or two that you can use. If not maybe, Lord willing, we'll talk about your problem next time.
God Bless!
