An Elegant Lady is continually learning, she is always seeking ways to improve not only herself but also the lives of those around her.
An Elegant Lady is compassionate, especially towards the poor and needy, those who through no fault of their own are suffering in this life. She will search for ways to bring them relief, and considers no deed too great or too small in order to be of service.
An Elegant Lady understands "atmosphere". More often then not, she will have soft music playing in the background. She continually seeks for a soothing, peaceful spirit to dominate in her home. Though this is not always possible, through experience she has learned how to quickly end conflicts, quiet noise, and restore peace. Her own cheerful attitude towards others, has a calming effect.
An Elegant Lady has learned to take care of all parts of her body. She understands that her teeth must last a lifetime. So she has learned to pay careful attention to the effects different foods have on her teeth and their potential staining capabilities. She has given up chocolate and coffee for this very reason.
An Elegant Lady keeps her mouth clean. She would never, ever smoke. Not only is it unladylike and causes bad breath, but it is life shortening. A lady is careful that her breath stay clean, fresh and odor free at all times.
An Elegant Lady perfectly models moderation and teaches her children to do the same. Yes, you may have a couple cookies, just not the whole box. Yes, you may bake your family a pie, but then you must discipline yourself and them, to eat only one piece.
An Elegant lady will not be like other women who deprive their families of treats because she can't control her own portions and so makes the whole family do without. No, she will control herself and also teach her children the rule of moderation, and how they can all enjoy the pleasant things in life without over indulging.
An Elegant Lady will not exercise for hours everyday just so she can over indulge her food cravings. She will teach herself portion control, whether that be green beans or pie.
An Elegant Lady takes pride in her cooking skills, she will practice recipes over and over, until finally she can dish it out to perfection.
An Elegant Lady energetically creates a clean, cheerful atmosphere for her family to grow and thrive in. Through trial and error, she has established a comforting, familiar rhythm to her household that rarely changes. Part of that rhythm is the daily, weekly and monthly schedule she has prepared for herself, which she adheres to religiously.
An Elegant Lady loves things that are alive. She will always have something living inside her home, whether that be a loyal dog, a cuddly cat, a happy bird, a colorful fish, or even a living green plant. She will always choose something living to bring energy and life into her home.
An Elegant Lady will bless and thank the Lord, her Creator all day long, looking up to Him for inspiration and guidance and instruction, continually acknowledging Him for His goodness towards her and not only her, but every living man, woman and child.
She believes in God and that He is a good God, greatly to be praised, and that blessing Him continually will bring favor, and a good blessing on her home and family.
An Elegant Lady would never let a day go by without nourishing her spirit, by feeding it the word of God. She has a beloved Bible that she reads from daily. Many pages have been permanently stained by her tears.
An Elegant Lady makes nightly dishwashing a pleasant ritual. She will light a candle, play favorite music or Bible tapes and smile as she hums along with the music or memorizes scripture. She will keep a soft rug by her kitchen sink to sooth her feet so she can work longer. She takes pride in carefully hand washing her dishes using hot, soapy water and drying them with her white, lint free, tea towels until everything, including the sink, sparkles and shines.
An Elegant Lady will go through the trouble of sewing lace to the edges of her tea towels, they seem prettier and more elegant to her that way.
An Elegant Lady is a teacher of good things. She speaks evil of no man. She does not meddle in things too high for her.
An Elegant Lady is slow to speak, and study's to be quiet. She will not argue endlessly with her husband, even about very important matters, but will take it to the Lord and trust Him to sort it all out. She teaches her children to respect their Dad, and to show thoughtfulness and kindness in word and deed. She herself, is a living example of God's grace.
An Elegant Lady loves how washing sheets makes everything feel fresh and clean, and always looks forward to the weekly chore of putting fresh linens on her family's beds. From time to time, she'll hang them outside to dry under God's sterilizing sunrays, whenever the weather permits.
An Elegant Lady would never leave her room in the morning without first making her bed and has consistently taught her children to do the same, until it became a habit.
In the evening while her hard working husband is relaxing, an Elegant Lady will bring him cold drinks and his favorite snack.
An Elegant Lady is not a TV watcher. She does not seek to be entertained, but derives great satisfaction from working with her hands, whether that be knitting, sewing, quilting, or crocheting, an elegant lady will never be idle.
An Elegant Lady is a hard worker. You won't see her sitting around idle, mindlessly watching TV or listening to music, while there is a sink full of dirty dishes, loads of backed up dirty laundry or endless chores to be done. This wise Lady will continually be engaged in some sort of productive activity.
We can all be elegant in our own way. It'll take work and we can't do it alone, since for most of us elegance doesn't come naturally. The Lord will help those who specifically ask Him in prayer. It is God's will that we live a life of elegance and dignity, enhancing the gospel we have believed so that others will be drawn to the Truth through us. We can either attract others or repel them. Let's be used by God to do good in this world, and to leave our mark on those who we come in contact with.
God Bless!
Hi Ladies!
In our last discussion, we talked about how to motivate ourselves to clean our homes. After thinking/praying about it, I realized that I'm motivated to clean my home, both by visual beauty and by the fragrance of beauty. My house must not only look pretty, but must also smell fresh and clean. In my mind it all goes together, like a beautiful woman. She's dressed beautifully of course, but she must also be clean and fresh, and smell pleasant for the fullness of her beauty to be complete. The effect wouldn't be the same if we detected that heavy perfumes were used to mask uncleanliness. The same thing happens in our homes, we shouldn't try to cheat with candles, trying to cover up dirt.
So if I see that the pretty home picture is spoiled, I know I need to quickly put things right and banish disarray. The sooner I DO something, the quicker my home will be restored back to its maximum, visual beauty. And if I notice that my home looks beautiful, but it's lost that clean, fresh smell, then I know I have some real 'roll up your sleeves' work ahead of me, involving elbow grease and lots of hot soapy water!
So for me, the two unchangeables are: that my house must not only look beautiful, but it also has to smell beautiful, to feel right.
Now this is just me, you might be motivated by something else. It's up to each of us to find out what that 'something else' is, and then get to work!
As far as the way our homes smell... if we want our homes to smell fresh and clean, we have to realize that every single thing in it gives off some sort of odor. Everything. Even us! This odor will either be pleasant or unpleasant. And sometimes it's the things we can't see that emit the most odor, such as dust. Yes I'm serious! I have such an acute sense of smell that I can actually walk into a room and smell the dust! I can smell electricity too, but that's another blog post!
Anyway, I guess we actually can see dust, just like we can see mildew, if we look closely enough, so it's not exactly invisible. But dust falls on everything and with added moisture, dust turns into grime, then bacteria goes to work on it till they emit odor, and that's where we come in hopefully, to end this nasty, smelly cycle.
Every surface in our home must be tended to regularly, and cleaned with fresh soap and water or the cleaner of your choice to wipe away this grime, thereby leaving a fresh clean smell in its place. We must systematically clean every single surface and every single item in our home to rid it of this dust/grime film and potential odor maker. Many homemakers, I find, are going through the motions of cleaning but don't really know why, so its easy for them to just quit, because they don't exactly know why they're cleaning in the first place. Especially if they can't actually see, the dirt. There are many reasons to clean our homes, such as bacteria, pests, health reasons, but today we're just concentrating on one, and that is to eliminate odors.
Nature's best cleanser hands down is pure water. What would we do without it? Hot water cleans just about everything, and nature's other remedy for a dirty home is fresh air. Clean, crisp, fresh air will go a long way in deodorizing our homes and will blow out all the stale dead air filled with dead, smelly stuff.
And don't forget the benefits of sunlight. Sunlight is a good source of Vitamin D and so is good for us! Better to suffer from too much sunlight than to live in darkness day after day, without enough light. So open up those heavy drapes and let the sun shine in! I don't believe all the bad things they accuse the sun of. My cat ignores them too, and follows her God given instincts, which tell her instinctively to lay by the sunniest window in the house, soaking up all those good, warm sunrays. We don't accept the wisdom of this world, and refuse to believe the sun is at the root of so many problems. Sunlight is a gift from God.
So far we've found that sunlight is good, pure water is the principal cleaner and that fresh air will help deodorize our homes, so will washing the laundry! You'd be so surprised, if you actually took the time to notice the bad odor coming from your dirty clothes hamper, containing all those dirty socks that just hours ago covered smelly athletes feet! That's a basket of odious odors cooking in your home. Just like we expect a bowl of lemons to emit pleasant smells into the atmosphere, so a bucket of dirty socks, and sweaty t-shirts and underwear will do the very same thing. But we can change all that in an hour or two, can't we? Just wash the laundry and eliminate the nasty odors! What's so hard about that? Yet women dread it and procrastinate. Why?
Might the problem be, that when all the clothes are washed, folded and stacked that we have to leave them on top of dressers and tables because our drawers are packed full of things we never wear? Get rid of all those things taking up room in your drawers and closets so that you'll be able to put away all of the clean clothes that you DO wear everyday! The clothes that you're actually wearing are the ones that are stacked on top of every available surface in the bedroom! Dressers and closets are meant for the things you wear every day, not to neatly store away clothes you hardly ever wear. If there are clothes you aren't wearing filling your drawers and closets, those are the things that must be put into storage and clearly labeled, or else donated or lastly, thrown away.
That brings us to another subject, clutter. If we know that everything in our home must be washed of grime frequently, then doesn't it make sense to have the least amount of stuff that's necessary, so you're not overwhelmed with cleaning, and bogged down with chores never ending? You've heard it before, but now you know why, you must get rid of clutter!
What is Clutter Anyway? How Can We Know It's Clutter?
Clutter simplified is this:
It's Wintertime, you have to go somewhere and you'd like to put on a sweater, so you automatically reach for your red sweater, but quickly change your mind and go for the white one instead, or the blue one, any one really, but not the red one, even though you just love the color. This goes on all winter, off and on. Next year winter rolls around and the same thing happens, only this time you look at the red sweater but you don't really reach for it anymore, because you're so used to grabbing it and then putting it right back by now, that you automatically pass it by without even thinking. It's become a settled agreement between you and your red sweater -- that you'll never wear it again.
OK, so you have this darling peach sweater that you just love to wear and so you wear it often. So where is it? Why it's laying on the chair because you wear it so much. Matter of fact you wear it practically everyday. Sometimes you pile other stuff on top of it, but when you're getting ready to go somewhere, you'll move the whole stack of clothes just to get to your beloved peach sweater.
Now Ladies, why is it that the red sweater you hate is given the dignity, and place of honor in your closet, in that it is neatly hung on a hanger, but your beloved peach sweater has no real home? Is it because your closet is too crowded with dozens of other 'red sweaters' preventing you from being able to comfortably hang up your favorite peach sweater? Might there be room if you removed the red sweater from your closet and replaced it with the peach one? Do you think that the rest of your clothes lying all over your room in little piles should also be given that same honor and dignity, since they're the clothes you actually use and wear? Think about it....*
Go Through Your House And Eliminate Odors
Haven't you noticed that your whole house smells clean when you wash the floors? Even if you didn't really see any dirt, there actually was a film of grime that you washed away. That thin film of dirt, even though not very noticeable, was still giving off odor, but water dissolved it and the invisible bacteria with it and replaced it with freshness and cleanliness.
The worst place for odors in my opinion is the kitchen. Sour sponges anybody? Smelly fridge? Pungent garbage pail? Leftovers rotting on dishes from last nights dinner? Pots soaking too long now growing mildew and other unexplainable things swimming on it's surface? It's a potpourri alright, a potpourri of garbage! That's certainly no place for an elegant lady, to cook meals for her family, is it? No, that's not who we want to be. We're diligent workers at home, not lazy sluggards. We take good care of our homes so much so that "our families rise up and call us blessed." (Prov 31)
We want to be numbered among the diligent. So let's make up our minds and set our wills towards excellence! Even if we miss, we just start again tomorrow, each day we try to make it a perfect day. Keep score if it helps. Make a chart. Today I made my bed, check! Washed the dishes right away dried them and put them all away perfectly, check!
You Can Be A Good Housekeeper
Be encouraged, you can be a good housekeeper if you want to bad enough, but many of us will need a little help. Always pray and ask the Lord for His help if these things don't come naturally to you. None of us are perfect, but we must try. That's all we can do, is try. Practice following a routine until it becomes a habit. If that routine doesn't work, no big deal, write up a new one and try again. Leave reminders for yourself of things you want to do. Chores, things to accomplish by the end of the week, etc.
It is God's will for us to be able to do a good job at home and to bless our families this way. He wants this for us, so know and believe that when you ask God for His help, He will answer you. Pray with confidence in this matter, knowing that its His will for you to be the best housekeeper you can be.
With determination and enough practice, you'll find housekeeping much easier, and just like riding a bike, once you learn, you'll never forget!
God Bless!
If You Haven't Already... Do Learn To Set Goals For Yourselves
I think everyone would agree, that it's good for us to set goals and challenge ourselves in any area of our lives that need improving. Whether that be Mothering, Housekeeping or our Spiritual life, we can always do better.
The positive side effects of setting and achieving our goals is that our inner man will be strengthened, so that we're not helplessly tossed to and fro by life anymore. Every time we overcome inner obstacles we become more of the person we want to be.
Actually some of the biggest, toughest challenges we will face, come from inside of us, where stubborn, self sabotaging, bad habits must be overcome and done away with. We must learn to master these habits, if we ever want to become useful and do anything worthwhile for the Lord. It's definitely a bad habit to be always shirking our responsibilities, leaving them for others to take care of.
Self control is extremely important/necessary and is a fruit of the Spirit. So its something we can pray for and about and practice over and over until we build this fruit into our very being. Until it ultimately fills up the space where the old habits used to live.
However with that said, what we Ladies/Girls, need to understand is that we're not going to achieve perfection in this life time. It's just not going to happen, (so stop getting so stressed over trying and failing) but that doesn't mean we're not supposed to try! As a matter of fact were expected to try!
That's what separates all of us, the winners from the losers. Those who please God, their husbands and families, and those who don't. It separates what the Bible calls the sluggards from the diligent. Read the Book of Proverbs for more insight and practical wisdom. However, we'll never be perfect, so don't let that bad ole demon of discouragement stop you from trying again, and again and again!
Even though you'd swear that your 'perfect neighbor' certainly must have achieved perfection, I guarantee you she has not. You're not there to see when it all falls apart, and I can guarantee you, that will happen from time to time even for the most 'perfect' among us. It's to be expected and is just the consequences of the fallen condition of this planet and the world system we're living in that's been subjected to ruin.
Nevertheless, despite all that, we're still expected to work hard, and to reach for perfection every single day. That's why we get a fresh, new 24 hour period to start all over again in a new direction, if the old way wasn't working, or else to keep building on the previous days if they've been winners.
So every day we strive and try, we practice hard, aiming for perfection even though we'll never reach it, but here's the thing, how close will we get? This race isn't for the lazy. God isn't interested in what the lazy are doing but He's watching over the diligent, ever ready to help them as they struggle towards the finish line.
So now that you've made up your mind that you're going to try really hard, say, to be the best housekeeper you can possibly be, consider that you'll necessarily be limited by your present physical health, your finances, the number of children you have, your spouses temperament etc., and so because of these personal limitations, what each of us calls 'success' will be different for everyone. So may I suggest that you start out in the beginning, by observing your own strengths and weaknesses?
Who Are You, Anyway?
Have you ever observed yourself, as a stranger would, as an outsider looking in and tried to figure out what makes you tick? What areas, for instance in your housekeeping, are you really weak ? What are your strengths? This is important information for you. No one can find out this vital information, but you!
Let's say, you've noticed that when you clean the kitchen you get tired half way through and so you 'save' the rest for the next day. Why is that? Write that down. Or that you never sweep the kitchen floor as part of the daily cleanup. Write that down. Or that you constantly avoid emptying the trash until it spills over? Write that down. Why do you do that? Are you too tired, easily distracted or just indifferent? Maybe you just don't take your job as a homemaker seriously enough? Maybe you think someone else is going to come along and do those things but that someone never shows up? Instead of wasting your time looking up the latest recipe, or craft project, try to figure out why do you do what you do.
Notice and learn what your strengths and weaknesses are, then prayerfully write down what you learned about your habit patterns and figure out what you can do to improve. In order to change for the better, these habit patterns must first be acknowledged before they can actually be changed. For instance, have you noticed that every time you get stuck on something or confused about what to do next, that your habit is to go out shopping to buy something new? Or that you begin eating bags of junk food? Or lose yourself on Ebay or Amazon?
Maybe you run to the Book store to escape. Do you think a written schedule might help give you direction and focus and might just be the answer to change those bad habits? What's constantly sabotaging your plans to be the homemaker you desire so much to be? Study why you do what you do, and then try to find a way to change those habits. Pray to God to give you insight into yourself, and to reveal how you're internally wired. Pretend you're giving advice to someone with the same bad habits, you have. What would you tell them to do?
As for me, when I clean, I need to be motivated. The only thing that motivates me is beauty, otherwise I fall back into old habits. It's easier for me to restore what I consider to be a beautiful room back to beauty, then to restore an ugly room back to ugly. Yes, its clean, but it's still dark and ugly!
The other thing that motivates me to clean is smell. I need my home to smell good, and if my home has lost that clean smell then its time to get to work! No I'm not talking about perfume smells or the heavy artificial smells of various artificial room sprays or heavy nauseating incense, but real honest smells. I'm talking fresh air, clean soap and water, sheets dried on the line, lavender water. Fresh citrusy smells of lemons, oranges and limes. The fragrance of eucalyptus, rosemary or lavender. These are clean smells, not man made. We need to get used to natural fragrance again. Most of us are so used to artificial everything we need to train our noses to remember what 'natural,' smells like.
Also, instead of going out and buying a room spray that smells like food, why not create the real deal? Have we all forgotten that food also has power to fill our homes with the most pleasant fragrances. Think about the wholesome fragrance of home made bread, or ginger bread cookies, cinnamon buns or even coffee! There's nothing like the smell of real food to make your house smell warm and inviting.
Something I found that I wanted to share with you, that will really make your home smell good is coffee beans! It has to be the whole coffee beans, not ground coffee. I bought a bag of whole coffee beans infused with Hazelnut at Walmart and when I opened the bag the whole kitchen smelled like Barnes and Nobles, if you know what I mean. You don't even have to bake brownies, the coffee/hazelnut smell is enough. Are you familiar with that warm cozy smell I'm talking about?
I bought the coffee because I read somewhere that if you put coffee beans in a bowl with a candle in the center, that the candle will heat up the coffee beans and make the fragrance stronger. Well, all I can say is that you don't need a candle. These coffee beans (infused with hazelnut) will add fragrance to your whole kitchen just as soon as you open the bag, for a really long time. I think the bag was $5.00 or 7.00 (can't remember) and well worth the money for the strong fragrance and how long it lasts. When the beans are not smelling as strong as they once did, all you have to do is take a couple of tablespoons of the beans added to about 2 cups of water and simmer it on you stove top. Not very long, because very soon that wonderful aroma will go all through your house.
Something else I do all the time to get rid of bad odors in my home is to spray a concoction I created, that works really good to get rid of odors. I fill a spray bottle half with water and half with green minty rubbing alcohol. Its green and smells like peppermint. You can buy it at Walmart or any drug store, even Big Lots carries it. It will cleanse the air and deodorize your home. What I do is I'll spray this after cooking broccoli or something similar and it quickly takes away the odors. You can make it for pennies, I think the 16 oz bottle is only a dollar, so you can spray it generously all over your house without having to be too frugal.
In the bathroom a Eucalyptus Wreath is a really good idea. These look pretty and last a long time. You can also just use a bouquet of eucalyptus that you can buy at any craft store, it will fragrance your bathroom naturally, and it lasts a long time. The thicker the bouquet the stronger the fragrance. I don't know about you, but I hate the smell of a lit match in the bathroom, so I'll use the peppermint alcohol in there too, to get rid of any really bad odors and it works really well.
Peroxide is good for getting rid of odors caused by bacteria around the toilet base and if you have any house pet problems baking soda and peroxide is great to use.
Also if you're allergic to everyday cleaners like I am but find the 'natural' store bought cleaners, such as the popular orange cleaner a little too pricey, I recently discovered that we can make our own. Those who've tried it say that this homemade orange cleaner is just as good as the one you buy in the store.
This is what you do:
You save the peels from oranges or grapefruits or lemons or limes, put them in a jar and then cover with white vinegar and put the lid on. You have to let it sit for a full 2 weeks and then strain and use the liquid mixed equal parts with water in a spray bottle and use wherever you would a vinegar cleaner. I don't think we have to use as many peelings as there are in the image above. I think they said you only need the peelings from 2 or 3 oranges in a ball jar, for it to work. So for sure we'll have to experiment, but it's well worth the trouble, I think.
I haven't tried it out yet but plan on trying it soon, because this is yet another way that I'll be able to add another layer of 'good' fragrance to my home. The directions say to use a jar of only oranges or only lemons etc, with the vinegar, but I'm thinking why not mix it up? And use a couple of grapefruit peels, and lemon peels, or orange peels all mixed together, according to whatever you have on hand and just use that? Why not? It is said that after letting the mixture sit for 2 weeks, (shaking it once in a while), that the vinegar smell is completely gone and all you smell is the citrusy fragrance of the oranges, lemons or limes.
If you're like me and care about the way your house smells, these few tips just might motivate you to get started cleaning and may inspire you to try something new.
There's so much to talk about when it comes to motivating ourselves to clean our homes. We need to study ourselves and learn what makes us happy to get up and clean, and what causes laziness and discouragement.
I may continue this discussion next time, Lord willing, since I love this subject so much and could talk about it all day.
God Bless!
Listen up Girls!
Do you all know Pat Robertson, host of the T.V. Show, the 700 Club? He's been taking a lot of heat recently over advice he gave on the air, concerning a husband's lack of attention and a woman's general appearance. The 'Liberals' were not very happy with the things he said, to say the least.
Read article below:
Pat Robertson: “Awful-looking” women are ruining marriages....
Pat Robertson placed blame for marital strife on women’s appearances this week, telling a teen who wrote in to Maxim Magazine about his parents’ relationship that it could be the wife’s fault.
Robertson decided to respond to the teen, who said his father played too many video games and didn’t pay attention to his mother, on his show, “700 Club.”
Robertson first said the wife might be too “hard-nosed” to keep the husband’s interest, then went on to discuss “awful-looking women.”
Robertson told a story about a woman who went to her pastor for marital advice, Salon.com reports. “She was awful looking. Her hair was all torn up, she was overweight and looked terrible,” Robertson is quoted as saying.
“And the preacher looked at her and he said, ‘Madam, if I were married to you, I’d start to drink too.’” *Robertson adds that women can keep the spark of love alive by “fixing themselves up” and “looking pretty.”
Ladies, Is Pat Right???
I underlined that last sentence in the article for emphasis. Why is Pat getting so much flak over saying things that used to be common knowledge? And guess what? The one who brought this article to my attention was a Christian man! He was 'appalled' at what Pat said and suggested he retire! Traditional values have become 'strange' to certain people, especially to those who grew up watching the Simpsons!
We haven't realized how much our "free speech" is actually being censored by adult peer pressure, because yes, we're allowed to say certain things, but by the time they get done with us they'll make us wish we hadn't opened our mouths! It's just another attempt to starve the truth and feed the lie.
My question to the opponents is this: what's wrong with men desiring their wives to look pretty? Even our own people jump on us now, and want to correct us. Shame on the husband, they say, he should accept his wife the way she is. Thereby making excuses for laziness, and rebellion! God is not with them in this, rather they have become sympathetic with the spirit and god of this world.
The god of laziness, the god of rebellion, the god of ugliness, the god of slothful living and procrastination. The god of excuses.
Our whole society has changed so much. For a husband to admit that he desires his wife to look pretty or take care of herself is now, deemed somehow degrading. Women's libbers have worked really hard to change our minds through the years and their brainwashing tactics have succeeded in changing the over all ideas of our society as a whole. So much so, that men are afraid to speak up now, for fear they might offend somebody and not only that, grown women are even ashamed to admit that what they really want, is to stay home and cook and clean and bake! And have children!
Of course they do! God their Creator designed them that way! He's the One who put those domestic desires in them in the first place. The world wants to squash that, and cause unrest and rebellion in the home. And they're succeeding! We each have to do our own part to resist this, starting from our own home and act like women again. We have to start doing and being what God created us to do and be!
Jesus said that in the last days, they'll even be saying such things as, "blessed is the womb that never bore children."
Ladies, we're almost there!
(Luke 23:29) For, behold, the days are coming, in the which they shall say, Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bare, and the paps which never gave suck.
What's happened to everybody? Men have become wimps almost over night! How did that happen? They've swallowed the bait, hook, line and sinker. It's easier for them to avoid conflict and just move over, letting their wives share the responsibility. He used to wear the pants in the family, but no more. They share those pants now, and it's getting rather uncomfortable as they both try to fit their whole body in the same pair of pants. Life doesn't make sense anymore. There are no clearly defined roles. Everything they try to do together is off balance and will be until one of them gets out of those pants and leaves it for the other to wear, and allows them to be worn the way they're supposed to be worn. Fully zipped, buttoned up and with dignity!!
However for the most part, in today's world men are no longer allowed to have an opinion about their wives' appearance. So consequently yes, they'll tend towards escapism and will lose themselves in video games, or football or golf, anything to avoid looking at their wives!
Why would they want to spend their free time with domineering wives, who look like, dress like, and act like MEN! What does the husband want with another man? He wants to spend his time with a woman who smells good, who talks softly, who looks pretty, who feels soft. A comforter, a companion.... someone who is different then he is. He's got enough buddies! He married a woman, but she's given in to the pressure and changed herself. She's become more masculine, more gender neutral, to blend in better with the world.
Ladies, a man wants a woman to be who God created her to be. He wants her to be more feminine, so he can relax and be what he is, more masculine. He's tired of competing with her. He doesn't want a weight lifting, kick boxing, arm wrestling, loud mouthed equal, thank you very much!
I'm sorry if I seem offensive to some of you but somebody's got to say something. I crave beauty, don't you? We're all starving for beauty! Our men are starving for beauty as well, and so then they go out and look in all the wrong places. They get on line and look at porn thinking that's what they want. But soon they learn that that's not satisfying either, it's the devils counterfeit for beauty! It's a well laid trap, a stumbling block for men. Yes, even Christian men, because we Christian women have also bought into the lie, that "it really doesn't matter what I look like, he loves me just the way I am." Yes that's true, but he has a God given hunger to be around the relaxing, satisfying and deeply fulfilling effects of feminine beauty. Being around genuine femininity fulfills something deep inside of him. What he needs dear Ladies...Is You !
Maybe that might also partially explains the gay mindset - the women refuse to be feminine so the men try to fulfill that need in themselves. The women refuse to act like women so some of the men try to fill what they feel has been lost. Have you noticed how gay men go all out in trying to imitate femininity? However they can't quite get it right, can they? Why? Because when you take off the wig and the makeup, and the fingernails, they're still men! What God has put inside of women can't be imitated. Only a woman can be a woman! There's a reason these gays are doing this. As the women are becoming more masculine the men are becoming more feminine, round and round it goes and the world keeps getting uglier. So is the reason more are turning to a gay lifestyle because they are starved for beauty and so they're trying to fill that need in themselves? Maybe yes, and maybe no, but if you'll notice, there weren't as many gays years ago when beauty was still around, and women dressed and acted like women. Think about it....
A typical man can't really verbalize what he needs. He doesn't even know himself how to explain it, all he knows is that the things he's looking for are not found in men. Men need women like it or not, and whatever that certain something is that men are looking for, women have inside of them. They were born with it, and it has value. You can't put it in a bottle and sell it, that certain something that all women have.
Think about it, that's why he married you, instead of staying single and hanging out with his male friends for the rest of his life, he married You!
We're all being brainwashed and we have been for years. It's been a subtle thing that has turned into a monster overnight.
These heartless women's libbers have laid heavy burdens on men and then cunningly tied their hands behind their back. They have taken away his God given rights as a man, as a husband, and then dared him to do something about it! They've preached to him that he's got nothing to say about anything his wife chooses to do, so keep his mouth shut. If he complains at all about the way the wife has let herself go, then he doesn't love her enough.
I'm sorry, but is that Biblical? Doesn't God want us to have self control, and to do all things in moderation or should we just say, "well I'm married now, I can just relax and live like an untidy, careless slob if I want to. Anyway, he has to love me, for better or for worse." Is that moral ladies? Is that ethical? What does God think about that, to put a stumbling block in front of your husband that way?
Ladies, I don't mean the husbands are not responsible too, to love their wives no matter what, but we women have to do our part. Women are supposed to be beautiful! Its Biblical! I'm not talking about coarse beauty, (if there is such a thing) or vulgar beauty, I'm talking about the beauty that accompanies modesty, and good taste, taking care of yourself and being so pretty it puts a smile on your husbands face, and your children's too. Doesn't the bible brag about Job's daughters being the most beautiful in all the land?
(Job42:15) And in all the land there were no women found so fair as the daughters of Job...
Do you think Job's daughters protected their beauty, so they could be everything God created them to be, or did they just let themselves go because beauty doesn't really matter? Their beauty wasn't just for themselves, it was a gift to Job, for all his suffering. Our beauty is not for us to glorify us or to bring attention to us, but for others. To sooth and relax them, to make them happy, just the way beautiful flowers are able to uplift you and bring joy to your day.
Doesn't God Himself describe a bride decking herself out, going all out trying to be beautiful for her groom? Isn't that normal and the way it's supposed to be? And isn't that the way it's always been? It's a God given desire put into the very heart of a woman to be as beautiful as she can be for her man! This instinct has been put into women by God and the world is doing its best to squeeze it out of us and replace it with UGLY! God wants us to be beautiful for our husbands and children! Say it over and over until you believe it and the world's junk falls out of your head, because believe me, we all have some of it in there whether we realize it or not. We have to renew our minds with the truth! Amen?
(1 Cor 7:34) The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
(Titus 2:4) That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children...
See....in Titus 2 he says we're to learn to love our husband and kids. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think that when we allow ourselves to get fat, lazy, and indifferent about our appearance is exactly what God meant when He said wives love your husbands, do you? They're the ones who have to look at us all day. We can't see ourselves, remember, except when we go out of our way to look in a mirror. But we're in our husband's view whether he likes it or not, hence the video games and golf and foot ball escapism.
So we see that men today, are being deprived of their beautiful wives who no longer take time to look pretty for them anymore. Did you know that most men take that personally, thinking we must not love them as much as we used to because we don't fix ourselves up just for them the way we did in the beginning of our relationship? The Lord said the same thing to the church in the book of Revelation, saying you've lost your first love. Do the works you did in the beginning. In other words when we were first saved. ( Rev 2:4-5)
When we don't do what we did in the beginning of our relationship it shows our love has grown cold, no matter what our words say. The Lord was offended and I believe our husbands are secretly disappointed with us too.
We need to stop being so selfish and rebellious, and get up and do some work on ourselves! It isn't vain! Its normal to want to look nice, its abnormal to think that ugly is OK when its within your power to make things beautiful!
Is your mind starting to come out of the fog? Were you starting to believe that good was evil and evil good, for a minute there? OK, then let's get to work!
Let's Get Beautiful!
Ladies, let's not just be hearers, but doers of what we've learned. This means we should turn the computer off, go take a shower, or better yet a bubble bath. Scrub yourself thoroughly, exfoliating all of the dead skin and get really clean, down to your toes. While you're down there give yourself a pedicure and use a pumice stone on your heels. Paint your toenails a feminine color and admire your pretty feet. Generously lather cream all over, making your skin nice and soft until you smell nice and feel soft. Now go wash your hair. Take extra time to style it till you get it just right. Are you finished? No! Don't stop there! With your lovely skin feeling nice and soft and your bouncing hair shining, do you really believe that putting on a scratchy pair of jeans and a baggy t shirt is the way to go? Is that beautiful? In your heart, you know that jeans don't fit in with femininity. So go to your closet and find yourself a pretty dress and put it on. Yes, even for just around the house. If you're afraid you might ruin it, then go buy a couple of dresses at salvation army for a few dollars. See, no excuses.
Now cook the family a nice meal, with a desert. It doesn't have to be elaborate, just that you made the extra effort for them. Spoil them, they're worth it. Be sure to take smaller portions for yourself with an eye towards keeping your figure slim, feminine and graceful.
In the morning try to do some lady like stretches, ballet moves or simple calisthenics. Learn to stand gracefully, and walk gracefully. Feel what it feels like to be all woman, with no masculine habits at all. Buy some flowers, and put them around the house. Make things beautiful, that's what women do! If you don't make the effort to do all these feminine touches no one else will. Your husband sure won't that's not his job, it's yours! He's the bread winner, that's his job.
Ladies, if you don't do these things your home will be cold and lifeless, sort of minimalistic. Oh yeah, there's a name for cold, its called minimalism invented by the world. See?
Young girls, older girls, ladies, of all ages shapes and sizes, please take these things to heart. This is a real attack on our homes. This problem is serious. Don't let the world's mindset invade your home. Be different! Be Godly! Be beautiful!
God Bless!
